Chad and Amanda are convinced that they are called as a family to a particular purpose and that all they do (work, school, play, etc) flows from this calling. This vision is to "Make Friends; Create Family; Release Disciples." They now spend a large portion of their time helping other families to do the same thing and experience the fullness of life. The key redefining is looking at family not through the lens of "nuclear" but instead to build an "extended family" (20-50 people made up of blood and non blood relationships) that is committed to sharing and doing life together. Below is their family heartbeat (Values and Vision)
Values--Love; Celebration; Team-Work; Accountability; Honesty
Vision--Make Friends; Create Family; Release Disciples
See below for more details concerning specific roles in Chad's life (husband; father; discipler)
For Chad, being a husband is one of the foundational places of his life where he is constantly challenged to live selflessly by giving of his life to another. As a very selfish man this is really hard to do...and it did not come natural at first.
Through the investment of other men who were living devoted lives as a husband Chad learned some simple, repeatable disciplines that help him to continue to lay down his life for Amanda and love her the way he promised to on their wedding day.
Below are a couple of those simple, repeatable disciplines.
- Morning Coffee (most mornings Chad wakes up and brings a cup of coffee to Amanda to wake her up as a reminder to her that she comes first in his life and as a reminder to himself that one of his key roles as a husband is to serve her)
- Date Night (Amanda and Chad have one designated time a week that is set aside to go on a date)
- Weekly Review (Amanda and Chad review every Sunday night; they look backward and forward to make sure they are living in to their family heartbeat and making adjustments as necessary)
Chad loves these kids! Each of them are so unique and bring so much joy in to Chad's life. As Amanda and Chad seek to build a Gospel Family these children not only help them but in many ways are teaching them what it means to be "family" to all of those they come in to contact with. Chad sees one of his primary roles as father is to help each of his children see themselves as a missionary and use the contexts of their lives to be the vehicle that can help to bring Gospel saturation in the different spaces they find themselves in.
disciple (spiritual father)
Amanda and Chad are convinced that to be a disciple (a follower of Jesus) is actually try to live the same kind of life that Jesus led and to focus on what Jesus focused on. As we read the gospel story Chad and Amanda are compelled to see that Jesus was focused on building a "Gospel Family" by reproducing His life into others that could do the same thing with someone else.
For Chad and Amanda, their primary reason of existence is to invite others into a discipling relationship and reproduce their spiritual DNA in to the lives of others in such a way that they can then go and do the same thing with someone else.
Each year Chad and Amanda invite a group of people into a discipling relationship and invest in to them in an intentional way so that when they are ready they can go and do the same thing for someone else. This intentional discipleship is at the heartbeat of each Gospel Family.